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My mother seriously has the brain capacity of a fly. I’m not sure how God created such a stupidly stubborn creature with the inability to understand basic concepts built upon common sense! Every conversation regarding my brother’s lack of intelligence, poor academic performance, or any downfall at all results in a heated discussion in which my mother proceeds in unearthing every negative act, bad decision, or poor grade of mine since the 4th grade. And for some reason, these series of events and discussions seem perfectly normal in the nature of our discussion because for some reason, the only person’s downfalls she can ever see is mine.

Forget the fact that I’m bringing these issues up as a way of informing my parents about a potential problem of my brother’s. Forget the fact that I’m bringing these issues up as a way of helping him in the future. Forget the fact that I’m put these out in the open now so they can be fixed before they hinder his future. Forget it all!

Why she’s so averse to having her sons negative points bluntly articulated to her is beyond me. Everyone has downfalls (she of all people should be aware of that). The point of a parent is to identify the ones which threaten to hinder and attempt to fix. The fact that I’m even willing to sit down and discuss my observations with my parents when they’re not even aware means that I’m already doing half the job. The fact that I’m willing to execute the solutions that I myself thought out means that I’m willing to take over their job completely in the name of my brother’s welfare (since they seem more inclined to perpetuate my brother’s false sense of self-worth).

But what I can’t do is help my brother when my mother undermines my authority and efforts at every turn by patting my brother on the back from a job badly done. She seems to think that every error of his is somehow the result of something we (my family) are doing versus the laziness and lack of effort of my brother. Any negative point brought up about my brother is immediately tackled by my mother as unnecessary libel against her sweet child due to the crass and bitchy disposition of usually, me.

And so I start to wonder … does she really think her precious tub of a son is perfect? She has to be aware that is inability to put his clothes on properly isn’t normal at this age. She she has to be aware that his attitude towards everyone is just heinous from his lack of friends and behavior at home. She has to be aware that his personal hygiene is greatly lacking from the condition of his skin to the state of his room. She has to be aware that his speech is horribly inarticulate as every statement or comment has to be repeated at least 3x for a semblance of understanding. She has to be aware that his weight is unacceptable when his doctor flat out says his weight falls under the light blue section (overweight).

What I can’t understand is why mother is so oblivious to the many downfalls of my brother when she’s so very acutely aware of every downfall I possess plus more.